I just returned from the funeral of Howard Phillips, 1941-2013.
It was a rich time to be with the family and to hear well over thirty speeches from friends, family, and fellow workers.
Most people knew Howard as a statesman, but I did not know him that way. I knew him as the father of my friend. Doug spoke often of his father. It seemed to flow out naturally, effortlessly, and randomly – in the stream of consciousness, during private conversations, platform speeches, and casual moments in small, unscheduled collaborations. Boiling it down, he honored, praised, quoted, and told stories of his father. I knew Howard because he was my friend’s father.
I also knew Howard Phillips another way – as a fan of his son. I saw his love for his son on many occasions, since Howard was a regular participant in Doug’s conferences. He adored his son. I walked beside Howard on history tours and sat beside him at conferences. I went to hear him lecture. We were often in the same hotel overnight. Howard was an early riser and so am I. I would get up early and head to the restaurant for a cup of coffee and a newspaper and often Howard would be there, and we would talk over the news. He would often say, “Scott, thanks for being Doug’s friend.” I knew his love for his son was at the bottom of that statement, for he was a father who hoped for loyal friends for his son.
One thing is clear: Howard was a communicative father. What made him different was that he had passion in his heart, and he captured the moment for it. He seized time and used it to teach his children. This marks the difference between great fathers and poor ones. Howard would take command of the moments at the dinner table, on the road, in his office, and use them for the discipleship of his children. Howard was a busy man, but he had the same twenty-four hours everybody else had. What set him apart was that he took time by the neck and squeezed it for all it was worth. The time that passive men let slip into irrelevant oblivion, Howard filled with content for his children.
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