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Interview With Jason Delgado

I was recently interviewed by Jason Delgado from The Confessing Baptist on A Theology of the Family, as well as other topics. You can listen to the audio here: “Interview #80 – Scott T. Brown – A Theology of the Family [Audio Podcast].”

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New Price for A Theology of the Family

The NCFIC store has reduced its price for A Theology of the Family from $39.95 to $21.95. You won’t find a better price anywhere else on the internet. To purchase, head on over to the NCFIC store!

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NC Homeschoolers Outnumber the Private Schooled

In North Carolina, more children are homeschooled compared to private school. You can read the whole article by clicking here.

In 1973, there were approximately 13,000 children, ages 5 to 17, being homeschooled in the United States. But according to the National Center for Education Statistics, as of the 2011-2012 school year, that number has grown to almost 1.8 million or approximately 3.4 percent of the school age population. Other sources report numbers well over 2 million.

In the Tar Heel state alone, homeschooling has increased by 27 percent over the past two years.

Wood, Genevieve. “In NC More Children Homeschool Than Attend Private Schools.” Paradshift.net. 08 Sept. 2014.

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25 Ways Parents Exasperate Their Children

One of my favorite child training authors when I was a young father was Reb Bradley. His, “Child Training Tips” was one of the two major guides I used outside the Bible (The other one was “Shepherding a Child’s Heart” by Ted Tripp). I usually have 10 or twenty copies of these books on hand simply to give to parents I think would benefit from it. I thank the Lord for the things Reb Bradley wrote and the good effect they had on me and my family. Colossians 3:21 declares, “Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.” Here are some of the ways Bradley lists for how this happens:

1. Never admit you are wrong

2. Model hypocrisy

3. Fail to keep promises

4. Demand too much

5. Over-protect them

6. Batter them with words

7. Abuse them verbally

8. Make discipline too severe

9. Show favoritism towards their brothers and sisters

10. Embarrass them

11. Give no time warnings

12. Try to be their buddy

13. Withhold firm discipline and proper training

14. Discipline inconsistently

15. Assert parental authority weakly

16. Consistently believe evil of them

17. Do not listen to them

18. Continually criticize them and critique them when they share their innermost thoughts and feelings

19. Communicate how unwanted they are

20. Threaten them with rejection

21. Never communicate approval

22. Neglect them through busyness

23. Overindulge them

24. Reward insolence

25. Cease a time of chastisement before it has produced humility and reconciliation

 (from Child raising Tips by Reb Bradley, P147-152)

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Prayer, the Bellows of the Affections

“Prayer works for good. Prayer is the bellows of the affections; It blows up holy desires and arduous of the soul. Prayer has power with God. “Command ye me”  Isaiah 45:11. It is a key that unlocks the treasury of God’s mercy. Prayer keeps the heart open to God, and shut to sin; He assuages the intemperate heart and the swellings of lust. It was Luthers counsel to a friend, when he perceived a temptation begin to arise, to betake himself to prayer. Prayer is the Christian’s gun, which he discharges against his enemies. Prayer is the sovereign medicine of the soul. Prayer sanctifies every mercy. 1 Tim 4:5.  It is the dispeller of sorrow; by venting the grief, it eases the heart. When Hannah had prayed, “she went away and was no more sad”a1 Sam 1:18. And it it has these rare effects, then it works for good.”

– Thomas Watson, All Thngs for Good, p20

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He Does All our Works in Us

Singing will change your life and shape your emotions. Show me the songs that you love, and I will know what you love and how you live. This is why Augustine wrote, “Only he who loves can sing.” God has invested much power in singing. Isaiah 26 pictures a people singing some of the most remarkable lyrics. Through these lyrics, the prophet is explaining how God will judge the world and how His people should sing about His judgment. A chapter like this should cause us to ask, “What are we singing? What kinds of lyrics play in our hearts?”

Singing has an important place in the Bible, and it is the content of the singing that distinguishes the Christian from the non Christian. After escaping Egypt on the other side of the Red sea, the children of Israel sang (Exodus 15). When the tribes of Israel gathered around the tabernacle in the wilderness, there was singing (1 Chron 6:31-32; 16:42). When Moses was in the last few days of his life God told him to write a song and in one day he wrote a song and taught it to the people. Even the stars sing, “when the morning stars sang together and all the heavenly beings shouted for joy” (Job 38:7). Perhaps this is why J.I. Packer declared, “Any theology that does not lead to song is, at a fundamental level, a flawed theology.”

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A Puritan Prayer for Family

A puritan prayer for family, in The Valley of Vision. This prayer contains many of the theological principles that the puritans understood to define family life:

“Let those that are united to me in tender ties
be precious in thy sight and devoted to thy glory.
Sanctify and prosper my domestic devotion, instruction, discipline, example, that my house may be a nursery for heaven, my church the garden of the Lord, enriched with trees of righteousness of thy planting, for thy glory;
Let not those of my family who are amiable,
moral, attractive, fall short of heaven at last;
Grant that the promising appearances of a tender conscience, soft heart, the alarms and delights of thy Word, be not finally blotted out, but bring forth judgment unto victory in all whom I love.”

The Valley of Vision, Banner of Truth Trust, 1975, 2002 edition, The Family, p208-209

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Delight-Ful: 31 Days to a Happier Baby… And Wholehearted Motherhood

Our friend Kate Collins has written a wonderful book, “Delight-Full: 31 Days to a Happier Baby . . . And Wholehearted Motherhood

She writes,  “Mothering is hard work. Completely worth it—invaluable, actually. But it’s hard work. Mothers need encouragement and truth spoken into their lives as they raise their little ones. Delight-Full gives mothers a scriptural perspective on the whys and wherefores of motherhood and offers mothers the gift of hope. Author Kate Collins speaks from personal experience, sharing stories that describe how parenting is so much more than tricycles and freezer cooking. Parenting is about reflecting God to our children. Parenting is giving our children a tangible, yet very fallible, glimpse of what God’s love for them is made of. Delight-Full helps mothers wholeheartedly embrace the great gift and tasks of motherhood.”

This book is written in 31 bite-sized chapters, Delight-Full contains warmhearted, real-life family stories and a scriptural take on just what the Lord can
work in the fertile ground of a mother’s heart. Each chapter ends with practical and encouraging notes, from one momma to another, to lift your spirits and help you turn your eyes to the Lord as you plant the seeds of God’s Word in the hearts of your children.

Go to The WEBSITE for the book.  Delight-Full.com http://delight-full.com/

You can PURCHASE it here,  http://delight-full.com/purchase/

and watch a TRAILER here, http://vimeo.com/82604172

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The Family That Worships Together

Education Choices Are Not Neutral

Doug Phillips posted an excellent counterpoint to those who feel that education is neutral and that parental involvement overcomes the negatives of public education.

Doug also gave a message on this subject, entitled How Important are Educational Choices? Several years ago, I also delivered a message, What the Bible Says about Education. You might also check out the upcoming film, Indoctrination.

Here is the whole article:

Education Choices are Not Neutral: The Implications of Islamic Madrasahs and Government Schools for Our Christian Children

Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. Psalm 1: 1-2

By Doug Phillips

Education is inescapably a religious discipline. (more…)

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The “Coldness” and “Self-Indulgence” of Those Who Don’t Want to Trouble Themselves with Children

Today, the idea of having lots of children is looked upon with disdain, as if you hate the planet or have become one of those parasites of nature that needs to be restrained. Here is a blast from the past from a speech Teddy Roosevelt gave on motherhood in 1905:

There are many good people who are denied the supreme blessing of children, and for these we have the respect and sympathy always due to those who, from no fault of their own, are denied any of the other great blessings of life.

But the man or woman who deliberately foregoes these blessings, whether from viciousness, coldness, shallow-heartedness, self-indulgence, or mere failure to appreciate aright the difference between the all-important and the unimportant–why such a creature merits contempt as hearty as any visited upon the soldier who runs away in battle, or upon the man who refuses to work for the support of those dependent upon him, and who though able-bodied is yet content to eat in idleness the bread which others provide. (Quoted in What to Expect When No One’s Expecting, 174-75)

Theodore Roosevelt, “On American Motherhood,” National Congress of Mothers, Washington, 17 July 2013, Speech.

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The Woes of Children Born to Negligent Parents

Family Origins

There is no doubt that the educational life of a Puritan began in the home. In keeping with an ideal covenant household, the salvation of the children and their spiritual well being was at first place in the heart of every godly parent. They universally understood, as Milton illustrates above, that education was a means to that end. Therefore, they believed that the education of their children in religion was their premier duty. They would often imagine the horrors of what their children might say of them if they went to hell on account of their negligence in education:

They will follow thee up and down in that ever-burning lake with direful curses and hideous outcries, crying out continually, “Woe unto us, that ever we served such a wicked wretched master, that had no care of the salvation of our souls, took no course to save us out of these fiery torments!” Even thine own dear children, in this case, will yell in thine ears, world without end, “Woe and alas, that ever we were born of such accursed parents, who had not the grace to teach us betimes the ways of God, to keep us from our youthful vanities, and to train us up in the paths of godliness! Had they done so, we might have lived in the endless joys of heaven; whereas now we must lie irrecoverably in these everlasting flames. Oh! it was the fault of our own parents’ unconscionable and cruel negligence, that all our life long struck full deep in our souls, and hath now strangled them with everlasting horror.[1]

[1] Robert Bolton, General Directions for a Comfortable Walking with God, Morgan, PA: Soli Deo Gloria Publications, 1995, (published earlier in London: F. Kyngston, 1625), p.276

Thus, they sought to catechize their children as soon as possible and instruct them in the Scriptures. This included daily devotions, either in the morning or around the dinner table, and sermon discussion/application.

(compiled by David Herring for 7/10/03)

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Father/Daughter Retreat Messages

Each year, our church puts on a father/daughter retreat for the fathers and daughters that attend Hope Baptist Church.

This year, we studied profiles of godly women in the Bible and cast a vision for biblical womanhood by examining how Scripture calls fathers and daughters to work together while daughters are in their father’s houses.

Fathers and daughters were meant to be united together under a powerful bond, fulfilling an uncompromising role, and engaging in an effective labor. (more…)

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Voice Obedience on the First Command

At Doug Phillips’ History of America conference, I was listening to Paul Jehle speaking about the pilgrim church in Plymouth and their child raising practices. He said it this way,

“The pilgrim church was a holy commonwealth. They trained their children by voice obedience in a soft voice on the first command. Parents were put in stocks if a child disobeyed in public.”

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The Freedom and Rest of a Submissive Wife

John Winthrop suggests a life of authority and submission in marriage is actually a beautiful life of joy and liberty:

The women’s own choice makes such a man her husband; yet, being so chosen, he is her lord, and she is to be subject to him, yet in a way of liberty, not of bondage; and a true wife accounts her subjection her honor and freedom and would not think her condition safe and free but in her subjection to her husband’s authority. Such is the liberty of the church under the authority of Christ, her king and husband; his yoke is so easy and sweet to her as a bride’s ornaments; and if through forwardness or wantonness, etc., she shake it off, at any time, she is at no rest in her spirit, until she take it up again; and whether her lord smiles upon her and embraceth her in his arms, or whether he frowns, or rebukes, or smites her, she apprehends the sweetness of his love in all, and is refreshed, supported, and instructed by every such dispensation of his authority over her. – John Winthrop

John Winthrop, “Little Speech on Liberty”, Little Speech on Liberty, Electronic Text Center, University of Virginia Library, n.d., 14 June 2013, <http://etext.lib.virginia.edu/etcbin/toccer-new2?id=WinLibe.xml&images=images/modeng&data=/texts
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