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Father Son Retreat Sept 30-Oct 1 – Wake Forest NC

It is almost time for the Father Son Retreat, which is September 30 – October 1 (Friday afternoon-Saturday) at the Brown Farm.

Date: Sept 30-Oct 1 at the Brown Farm.
Speakers: Scott Brown, Jason Dohm, Mike Davenport and Paul Carrington.
Subject:  The Men Who Feared Their God
Cost: $40 per person or $100 per family, whichever is cheaper.


The retreat begins on Friday at 6:00 Sept 30 for dinner, and ends at 4:00 on Saturday. Meals include Dinner Sept 30, breakfast and lunch on Saturday.

To register, please email the name of each person attending, along with the age of each son, to Alan Hillman at [email protected].

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Fear of God Devotional: The Fear of God is Everything in Life

How does the fear of God benefit all areas of life?

In this video, Mala Chindongo explains that the fear of God is everything in life – it brings order to society, order in our homes, and order in the heart of a man. There is a saying in Africa that a man who does not fear God is a beast.

This is true in life. If you don’t fear God, you have a seared conscience and if you do not fear God, you will not respect other individuals. This lack of the fear of God has resulted in people worshipping their ancestors, murdering children, or even dictators killing people because of a dislike of them. This is evidence of a lack of a fear of God.

This idea has played out again and again throughout history. In places that do not have any knowledge or fear of God, we find cannibalism and all kinds of abuses going on. In contrast, when the Gospel is preached, things dramatically change when people’s hearts are regenerated.

1 Timothy 4:1-2 (NKJV) – “Now the Spirit expressly says that in latter times some will depart from the faith, giving heed to deceiving spirits and doctrines of demons, speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their own conscience seared with a hot iron”

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Fear of God Devotional: How Handling Things Our Own Way is a Sign We Don’t Fear God

How does doing things our way demonstrate we don’t fear God?

Craig Houston explains in this video that we as sinful human beings like to handle things our own way or to accomplish tasks in the manner we desire instead of fearing God enough to say, “What would God want me to do” or “How would He want me to respond?”

God’s Word teaches us that to obey is better than sacrifice. God desires obedience more than sacrifices. When we understand that, then what He wants for us matters more than what we want for ourselves. Jesus said, “If you love me, keep my commandments.” In other words, if you love Christ, fear Him and obey Him. Following Him should take priority above all else. His way alone is true and good. We are not to let pride get in the way of following the commands of Christ.

1 Samuel 15:22 (NKJV) – “Has the Lord as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the Lord? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed than the fat of rams.”

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Fear of God Devotional: What Does the Fear of God Look Like in Children?

How does the fear of God affect the lives of our children?

Jason Dohm shares how he and his wife could tell right away when each of their children became regenerate. They noticed a definite change, a change that was connected to the fear of God.

When their children became regenerate, many of their children had a pattern of deception – but when they became born again, they became much more trustworthy. He explains how he would attribute that change to them knowing that God was in the room, realizing that everything they did was known, and how he and his wife didn’t have to be present with them because they knew God was present. They were beginning to fear the Lord even more. Their hearts were changing. What a merciful and good God we serve!

Ezekiel 11:19 (NKJV) – “Then I will give them one heart, and I will put a new spirit within them, and take the stony heart out of their flesh, and give them a heart of flesh.”

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Fear of God Devotional: The Fear of Man in the Ministry

How are we to avoid the fear of man?

Clarence Simmons explains in this video that we ought to cry out to God because our natural inclination is the fear of man – that is natural. We are to plead with God to give us boldness to proclaim His truth, no matter the cost.

That is what we need to pursue. We do speak the truth because God has called us to His service and our primary obligation is first to Him and then to the flock. We are to preach His truth because it is His truth. We need to do that boldly and whole-heartedly and with backbone. Preaching God’s Word to those around us is such a glorious responsibility.

This is the will of God for us – to press on, not to quit but to keep going and go until the end as we look to Jesus, our great Saviour, who redeemed us by His great blood for the purpose of forming His Church into His likeness by the power of His Holy Spirit.

Galatians 1:10 (NKJV) – “For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I still pleased men, I would not be a bondservant of Christ.”

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Fear of God Devotional: The Fear of God In Missions

What are the characteristics of a minister who fears God?

Mala Chindongo explains in this video that a man who fears God is one who does not focus on himself but instead on the will of God. When it comes to missions, a missionary or pastor on the mission field knows that he is there for the honor of God. In contrast, a missionary who has no fear of God doesn’t think about the people he is preaching to or the fear, love, and honor of God, but only about the glory of self.

A key to better understanding the fear of God is that we understand that God is big and we are small. What the fear of God does to a pastor or missionary is that they see what they’re doing is not about themselves but about God. They fear God and strive to avoid displeasing Him.

Jeremiah 9:23-24 (NKJV) – “’Let not the wise man glory in his wisdom, let not the mighty man glory in his might, nor let the rich man glory in his riches; but let him who glories glory in this, that he understands and knows Me, that I am the Lord, exercising lovingkindness, judgment, and righteousness in the earth. For in these I delight,’ says the Lord.”

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Fear of God Devotional: Modesty – Adorned with Beautiful Holiness

How are we to grow in holiness?

In this video, Craig Houston describes one way we can strive to grow in holiness. Specifically, he discusses 1 Timothy 2 and 1 Peter 3 and explains they describe women who adorn themselves with godliness. Holiness is on display from the inside out – a woman should be adorned with a kind of holiness that comes from being wholly devoted to the Lord. With that devotion and that desire for holiness in the inner man, it naturally is evident outwardly. A revealing of the beauty of holiness.

Although this idea does involve clothing, it also has to do with how our life, in general, is adorned. The words we speak in life – they can bring life or death. All of that comes from inside. Instead of being focused on how we look or how we act, we should ask how our life is adorned with holiness coming from the inward man. How does it manifest itself on the outside? We should seek to walk in holiness and encourage our children to do the same.

1 Peter 3:3-4 (NKJV) – “Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.”

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Help! My Church is in Crisis

How do you persevere through trials in church life, or any other part of life? How do you go to church in a time of crisis, where there is disagreement, confusion and hurt feelings? How do you face people who have offended you? How do you spend Sunday with people who disagree? How are you supposed to sing with true love in your heart and not be fake? How are you supposed to take the Lord’s Supper and not be fake or worse, bring condemnation down upon your head by taking it in an unworthy manner? How are you supposed to talk to your brother or sister in the Lord without being fake? How do you teach your children to go through times like this?

Don’t let your children leave home without knowing that times of trial are gifts from the Lord. They are designed for good – to help us experience His love more deeply and to stimulate us to instruct our families in how we go through crises.  How do you go through a crisis in your church? I can sum it up in one phrase: Out of the overflow of love for your Lord Jesus Christ,  and your obedience to His commandments.

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Fear of God Devotional: What Does the Fear of God Look Like

How can we grow in the fear of God?

Jason Dohm explains in this video that the fear of God is something that grows through your life – it is something that results from knowing and learning more about Him. There is always more to learn about God.

Obviously, there is plenty of room for growth once you are saved. We learn more about God through Scripture reading and prayer. The more you learn about God through Scripture reading and the more time you spend in prayer, the more you fear God and want to learn more about who He is, which ultimately drives you closer to God and understand who He is. Understandably, it is very important that a believer not neglect time in prayer and reading Scripture.

Proverbs 8:17 (NKJV) – “I love those who love me, and those who seek me diligently will find me.”

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Sufficient, Certain and Infallible – The Power of the Word of God

The historical confessions of faith are a steadying influence in a church and family. I recently delivered a message on The Baptist Confession of 1689 which speaks of the power of the Word of God in the first chapter. 

In the first three sections of Chapter 1 of the Baptist Confession of 1689, the sufficiiency, certainty and infallibility of the Bible is declared.

This means that the Bible ought to be the most important resource in the home. It should capture the first portion of time. My experience is that if it does not take the first place in priority, it will take the last place. This usually happens in homes which are filled with movies and books and music that edges out the Bible in importance. 

Here is an audio message on these three sections of chapter 1. 

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Join Us for a Leaders Meeting During the FORGE Conference

One of my great desires is that pastors in a region who embrace the sufficiency of Scripture will begin to know each other better and in turn work together to advance the kingdom of heaven in their communities. To that end, the NCFIC would like to invite you to a luncheon for prayer, mutual encouragement, fellowship, and exhortation during this year’s FORGE confeerence, “Stand Fast in the Faith“.

You and your fellow elders, pastors and deacons, along with your sons and aspiring future church leaders are invited to an NCFIC Church Leadership Luncheon, Friday at noon during the FORGE conference. Registration is free, and lunch will be provided. Please be sure to RSVP.

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Fear of God Devotional: The Fear of God and Division in Churches

How does a lack of the fear of God cause division in churches?

Mala Chindogo explains in this video that within the church, there can be division among members because of gossip. People do not gossip because they care about a person, but because they want to stir up strife. When there is no fear of God in that person, they don’t strive to encourage and build up that brother or sister in the church as God commands us (1 Thessalonians 5:11), but they seek division and they seek the harm of that individual. As you examine your life, are there ways you are gossiping about another, either directly or subtly? How are you going about encouraging and building up the body of Christ?

Ephesians 4:29 (NKJV) – “Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.”

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Know How Killing Sin Is

Here is a video put together yesterday at the Colorado Father Son Retreat.

You’re mortifying the flesh, killing it so that it doesn’t kill you. Every father and son need have to that agreement, the son needs to know how killing sin is, and how blessed the kingdom of Heaven is.

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The Devil’s Three Pronged Pitchfork – The Lust of the Flesh, the Eyes, and the Pride of Life

Fathers and sons need to get on the same page about what is happening to them – especially when they are having a conflict. One of those areas is the matter of worldliness and the forces that are activating the “lust flesh, the lust of the eyes and the pride of life.”  Nothing that fathers and sons do together is more important than this. It determines everything about your relationship and who you are in the world.

It is not the fact that you have experienced the lust of the flesh the lust of the eyes or the pride of life that will damn your soul.Your soul hangs in the balance on this: do you love the world and it’s lusts that present themselves to your senses.

We are getting close to Halloween now and If you see a picture of the devil, he will have a pitchfork. But notice that almost all devils pitchforks have three tines. In my mind, these tines represent the three types of idolatry listed in 1 John 2:15-17. The conflicts and challenges you have as father and son will always arise out of these three things.

Fathers should always ask: How do I sabotage my son by my capitulating to the lusts of the flesh. Am I helping my son to build good affections? Am I building affections for holiness. Sons should always ask, what’s driving me? Is it the world? Is it the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life?

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Fear of God Devotional: How Your Children Strike You With the Fear of God

How does your family help you fear God?

Craig Houston explains in this video that he doesn’t want to fail his wife, children, and his church congregation and cause them to stumble – each of them serve as positive restraining works of the fear of the Lord. Throughout Scripture, we can read of the blessing that results when a man fears God, lives a godly life, and raises his children to also fear God. In contrast, we also see what occurs when a man has no fear of sinning against God and gives himself over to his flesh and the disastrous effects it has on himself and his family.

Psalm 91:9-16 (NKJV) – “Because you have made the Lord, who is my refuge,

Even the Most High, your dwelling place, no evil shall befall you, nor shall any plague come near your dwelling; for He shall give His angels charge over you, to keep you in all your ways. In their hands they shall bear you up, lest you dash your foot against a stone. You shall tread upon the lion and the cobra, the young lion and the serpent you shall trample underfoot. ‘Because he has set his love upon Me, therefore I will deliver him; I will set him on high, because he has known My name. He shall call upon Me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him and honor him. With long life I will satisfy him, and show him My salvation.”

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