How does NCFIC relate to similar ministries?

NCFIC does not view itself as the “end all” solution to the culture-driven, age-segregated, peer-dominated modern church. Other similar ministries have proficiency beyond our own in various areas. So in addition to the resources we provide, it is our firm and constant goal to help these like-minded ministries succeed at what they do best. We also work with state and regional groups who wish to affiliate with us for local and national conferences and other purposes.

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Oh That Our Wills Would Be Lost in God’s Will

“We can imagine no higher degree of perfection than that which is here set before us. To take patiently whatever God sends—to wish nothing but what God approves—to prefer pain, if it pleases God to send it, to ease, if God does not think fit to bestow it—to lie passive under God’s hand, and know no will but His—this is the highest standard at which we can aim, and of this our Lord’s conduct in Gethsemane is a perfect pattern.

Let us strive and labor to have “the mind that was in Christ” in this matter. Let us daily pray and endeavor to be enabled to mortify our self-will. It is for our happiness to do so. Nothing brings us so much misery on earth as having our own way. It is the best proof of real grace to do so. Knowledge, and gifts, and convictions, and feelings, and wishes, are often to be found in unconverted persons. But a continually increasing disposition to submit our own wills to the will of God is a far more healthy symptom. It is a sign that we are really “growing in grace, and in the knowledge of Christ.”



Ryle, J.C. Expository Thoughts on the Gospels, Mathew and Mark. Volume one. Baker publishing Group, Grand Rapids, MI. Pg. 319

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Blogging the NCFIC Confession: Article II

God Created Church and Family


We affirm that Almighty God is the sovereign Creator and Preserver of His people and all the institutions that bring blessing to mankind—including the church and the family—and is thus deserving of our highest honor and humble obedience (Col. 1:16-17).

We deny that we, being mere creatures, have a right to refashion the church and family according to our vain imaginations by altering God’s prescribed government, worship, gender-based roles, or any other normative patterns revealed in Scripture.

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Is NCFIC a new denomination of churches?

No, absolutely not. NCFIC is not a new denomination or confederation of churches but rather a network and resource for family-integrated churches and families seeking them. It is a ministry to America’s churches by Christian leaders who see faithful fathers and mothers struggling to find a meaningful, family-affirming relationship with their local church. All the men who work with NCFIC believe in biblical church authority and are all under the oversight of their own local churches with regard to their moral life.

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Calvin on: The Superiority of God over Satan

“But God tries in one way, Satan in another. Satan tempts that he may destroy, condemn, confound, cast down, but God, that by proving his own children he may make trial of their sincerity, and establish their strength by exercising it; that he may mortify, purify, and cauterize their flesh, which unless it were forced under this restraint would play the wanton and vaunt itself beyond measure.”



John Calvin, Institutes of the Christian Religion, 3.20.46


This quotation was given to me by a young lady in our church, a self described “Calviness”

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What is NCFIC’s purpose?

NCFIC’s purpose is to correctly understand God’s unified vision for church and family, rightly diagnose the problems that impede this vision, and effectively communicate biblical solutions that rebuild family-affirming churches. We do not believe that family-integration is the only—or even the primary—issue in selecting or establishing a local church. But it is unquestionably a defining issue of our day as the modern church has lost the essential familistic culture that we see modeled in the New Testament.

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On: “Can’t we Have it Both Ways” Jason Dohm says that “both ways” never works anyway

“My observation is that it is certain that we can’t have it both ways. In environments where the discipleship of children is outsourced to others in the church setting, I have never observed it to be the rule that fathers play their Biblical role of discipling them in the home. Never! Not once! I have observed dozens of churches, and I have not once observed a church where they have it both ways, nor do they even claim to.

This tells me that something intrinsic is in place which sets the formula in concrete: where discipleship is outsourced in the church, robust discipleship in the home is the exception and not the rule. Where the Biblical family roles are preserved in the church, robust discipleship in the home is the rule and not the exception.

We must not trust this anecdoctal evidence as the basis for our case – the Bible is plain enough on the subject and it alone must rule the day. But it does form a powerful illustration. It confirms that God knows best. May God be true and every man a liar.”

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Blogging the NCFIC Confession: Article I

Scripture is Sufficient


We affirm that our all-wise God has revealed Himself and His will in a completed revelation—the sixty-six books of the Old and New Testaments—which is fully adequate in both content and clarity for “everything pertaining to life (salvation) and godliness (sanctification)” including the ordering of the church and the family (2 Pet. 1:3-4; 2 Tim. 3:16-17).

We deny that God’s people should treat His Word as inadequate for church and family life by supplementing His completed revelation with principles from humanistic psychology, corporate business models, and modern marketing techniques.


Read the full NCFIC Confession online HERE.

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Why Can’t We Have it Both Ways?

People often ask me, “Why can’t we have it both ways – the best of both worlds – age segregation in the church and fathers teaching and leading their homes?”

The answer is, “why would we want it both ways when scripture only presents one way?”

There are not “two ways” in scripture – only one way. Scripture shows age integrated discipleship in the church and fathers as the primary leaders and teachers of their families – that is all you see in scripture regarding the discipleship of children. We reject the pattern of age segregation in the church because God never gave us youth groups or age segregated discipleship in scripture. We borrowed this from the world.


And what about the “best” of both worlds? Our current age segregated youth ministry driven discipleship is giving us a 90% attrition rate, unchristian lifestyles, and rampant immorality. This is another reason why we must let God define “best” and trust him with the results of our obedience.

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NCFIC History: Where it all began

By Douglas Phillips, September 25, 2001

During the week of September 11, 2001, a gathering of pastors, elders and church leaders from across gathered with Vision Forum Ministries and the newly formed National Center for Family-Integrated Churches in San Antonio for the first ever “Summit on Uniting Church and Home.” At issue was the necessity of encouraging a reformation (and praying for a revival) concerning the relationship of the family to the local church.

At a time when God is turning the hearts of many fathers to their children, and where biblical patterns of Hebrew discipleship are being rediscovered and implemented in the homes of many families who have embraced home education, a glaring dichotomy still exists in those churches which practice unbiblical family-segregating, and teen-culture driven philosophies of church life. The purpose of the Summit was to identify the basic issues which must be addressed for reformation to take place in local churches across America. Specific concerns included:



  1. The difference between an biblical family culture in the local church, and the prevailing age-segregated, youth driven philosophy of ministry:
  2. The role fathers should play in the meeting of the Church, and the necessity that local churches formally train them to be shepherds at home;
  3. The importance of treating the meeting of the Church as a family gathering of believers, not merely an evangelism outreach to the lost;
  4. The dangers of transforming the purpose and freedom of the church to grow as a body of believers because of the introduction of wrong philosophies of debt;
  5. Reasons why reinforcing the New testament model for worship will encourage family revival., and much more.



Several important decisions were made. First, it was discussed that a committee of church leaders should be formed to draft a confession to be promoted and adopted by local churches as a reformation declaration of commitment to biblical principles of for uniting church and home. Second, plans were discussed for a national conference to address these and related issues. Third, it was proposed that a database be formed for churches who subscribe to basic principles of Christian orthodoxy by affirming the historic creeds, and who believe in uniting church and home, and signify such by affirming the confession.

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Jaw Droppers from Family Worship

Jesus shows the tragic state of our lives when we don’t listen to those He sends. Our house is left desolate when we do not listen to the prophets, but if we say, “Blessed is He who comes in the name of the Lord” He will come to us.


“O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the one who kills the prophets and stones those who are sent to her! How often I wanted to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her brood under her wings, but you were not willing! See! Your house is left to you desolate; and assuredly, I say to you, you shall not see Me until the time comes when you say, ‘Blessed is He who comes in the name of the Lord!’ —Luke 13:34-35

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Expository Preaching Priority Communicated in NCFIC Conferences

Over the years we have conducted conferences on the important subject of expository preaching in order to train elders in the disciplines and practice of faithfully preaching the whole counsel of God. In our “Audio Resources” section of the web site you can hear a message I gave on this subject last year entitled “Thunder, Water, Light and Sword – The Voice of God in the Church.”

Click HERE and scroll down to listen to the audio message.

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The Puritans on Children in Church

“We should bring our children with us to the publick teaching, so may our private teaching prove profitable. Oftentimes divine truths are as nails, one teaching sets them in, and the other teaching fastens them; one plants and the other waters, and so of both God gives increase.

“We should bring the word publickly taught home to our children, by repeating it to them, and requiring it of them. It is not enough that we with others teach them, but we must see what they learn, enlivening things upon their hearts at home, by holy counsel. At our houses we should harrow in that good seed which hath been publickly sown, that so it may be covered the closer and root the better in the hearts of the children and servants.”



“Family Religion Revived, or a Treatise as to discover the good old way of serving God in private Houses; so to Recover the Pious Practice of those Precious, Duties unto their Primitive platform.” By Phillip Goodwin, p. 401-402 (1655)

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Education Methodology Matters: See the Fruit- Do the Numbers- Stop the Madness

The Biblical model for education features fathers as teachers, walking and talking alongside their children when they sit in the house, when they walk by the way, when they lie down and when they rise up, bringing them up “in the training and admonition of the Lord” in an age integrated context of church and family and business life.

In contrast, Kyle Anne-Shiver writes in “American Thinker” about the despicable moral state of the souls of those who experience public education– a system which rages against almost every principle of biblical education. After thousands of hours getting their brians pickled in relativism and socialism, they are – relativists and socialists. She tells of a “a very disturbing pattern of moral erosion:”


  • 30% stole from a store in the past year; 23% stole from a parent or other relative; 20% stole something from a friend.


  • 42% lie regularly to save money; 83% lied to a parent about something significant.


  • 64% cheated on a test in the last year; 38% cheated 2 or more times; 36% used the internet to plagiarize an assignment.


American young people are just about evenly divided on whether they prefer capitalism to socialism. Among our under-30 crowd, 37% prefer capitalism, 33% socialism, and 30% are undecided.

You may be thinking it could be worse. And as it turns out, you would be correct. It actually is worse. By students’ own admission, 26% confessed they lied on at least one or two questions on the survey. Experts agree that dishonesty on surveys usually is an attempt to conceal misconduct, i.e., to make oneself appear better than he actually is.

But it gets even worse.

High school students admit to vast amounts of lying, cheating and stealing, but lo and behold, their confessions make nary a dent in their ethical self-esteem. A staggering 93 percent said they were satisfied with their personal ethics and character and 77 percent said that when it comes to doing what is right, “I am better than most people I know.”

I have little patience with those who praise or want to try to preserve such a damaging system. We need to go back to obeying the word of God in the realm of education and training of children. Two hundred years ago before modern age segregated education model had infiltrated our culture– literacy researcher Dupont de Nemours discovered that only four out of every one thousand could not read – for a literacy rate of over 99%. Why? Fathers and mothers were teaching their children in their own homes how to read using the Bible and the children were not being polluted by their peers in an age segregated world. My belief is this: without a return to biblical discpleship in our homes, there is no hope for the church or the state of the United States of America.

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NCFIC Confession Advocates Expository Preaching in Churches

The NCFIC Confession contains this statement on expository preaching, explaining that it is our intention to, “Restore the practice of teaching ‘the whole counsel of God’ through exegetical preaching of Scripture in the church and daily instruction in homes by fathers and mothers.”

Our prayer is the same as John Piper communicated in his sermon Why Expository Preaching is Particularly Glorifying to God. He says his prayer is:


“That God would raise up thousands of broken-hearted, Bible-saturated preachers who are dominated by a sense of the greatness and the majesty and the holiness of God, revealed in the gospel of Christ crucified and risen and reigning with absolute authority over every nation and every army and every false religion and every terrorist and every tsunami and every cancer cell, and every galaxy in the universe.”


Piper explains that:


“Exposition of texts is essential because the gospel is a message that comes to us in words and God has ordained that people see the glory of Christ—the “unsearchable riches of Christ (Ephesians 3:8)—in those gospel words. That is our calling: to open the words and sentences and paragraphs of Scripture and display “the glory of Christ who is the image of God.”

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