How Young Men Bless Their Sisters


The opportunity that siblings have is a very special one that only lasts a few years. Here is another powerful quote from J.R. Miller explaining one of the most wonderful of these opportunities,

“A young man should be more polite to his own sister that to any other young woman under heaven; and a young woman should ever turn to her brother as the one nearest in all this world to her until a husband stands by her side. Brothers and sisters are each other’s natural keepers. They should shield each other. They should be an inspiration to each other in the direction of all noble thought and better life. They should be each other’s guardian angels in this world of danger and of false and fatal paths.”

The Home Beautiful, By J.R. Miller, Pathway Publishers, Copyright, 1912, 2000 edition, p85

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Rachel Weeping for Her Children – Sins of the Sixth Commandment

On Sunday, I preached on the sixth commandment, “Thou shalt not kill.’ The sins of the sixth commandment are usually ragings against the sovereignty of God and the image of God in man. They include, abortion, assisted suicide, euthanasia, slander, and hatred in the heart. Also, see Rachel Weeping For Her Children. Brent Nelson at has written a heart wrenching piece on the anti woman realities of our new political administration.

“My claim is this: abortion is also an assault on both physical and spiritual womanhood. It grieves with unspeakable pain, the heart of the woman whose very existence, as the full image bearer of God, inclines her to nurture life. Those who truly have a woman’s best at heart, cannot but strive against the evil of abortion…”

Also, see this, Abortion: Postmodern Version of Child Sacrifice. John Ensor says, “Abortion is our postmodern version of child sacrifice for the Me Generation.” Read more here

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Interns Study “The Master Plan of Evangelism,” by Robert Coleman

Today the NCFIC interns will begin reading a book that my pastor, John Tebay* gave me around 40 years ago – The Master Plan of Evangelism, by Robert Coleman. I still have the original copy of that book and it is very precious to me. Contained in this book is an illustration of the doctrine of the sufficiency of scripture applied to discipleship methodology. Coleman takes the discipleship patterns of Christ and applies them. Coleman’s proposition is that Christ staked his entire ministry, not on the reactions of the multitudes, but on twelve men. Christ was a personal disciple maker. John Tebay was also a personal disciple maker and his work in my life lives on…

* John Tebay was pastor of Calvary Church of Placentia, California, my home church, for 45 years. He loved the Word of God, the church and the family and I will always give praise to God for his deposit in my life as a young believer.

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Sanctifying Super-Bowl Sunday

Last Sunday I preached on the Fourth Commandment from Deuteronomy 5:12-13, “Remember the Sabbath day to keep it holy.” Is this commandment for today? Why are nine commands valid, but this one has been expunged? What kinds of activities has God defined for this day. This sermon deals with these issues.

A commandment for family life

The fourth commandment pictures one of the most important aspects of family and church life. In this commandment, the governors of the house (father and mother) are under divine mandate to assure that children, servants, strangers and even the animals and anyone else under the roof will have a Sabbath rest – for the whole day, not half.

A threatened commandment

It is a threatened commandment that families need to respect. We are commanded to “keep” it – to guard and protect it. This means that we build a fence around it and don’t allow anything else to over run it, because there is a public war against this commandment.

As with all the commandments the devil is always waging war with the fourth commandment. He places many stumbling stones in our way and attempts to disfigure it, eliminate it, or keep us from it. This is why we must “observe” or guard the Sabbath day.

Barbarians at the gate

The French revolutionaries abolished the Sabbath. In Egypt the children of Israel had lost their computation of it. The pagan enlightenment philosopher of the eighteenth century, Voltaire, wrote,”if you wish to destroy the Christian religion you must first destroy the Christian Sunday.”


Here is how vulnerable we are to neglecting this command:

  1. Fear will overrun it
  2. Greed will overturn it
  3. Obsession will overwhelm it
  4. Ungodliness will overthrow it
  5. Antinomianism will nullify it

It has to be kept safe from the barbarians in the heart, the culture, and the church that will make us breakers of the fourth commandment.

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How to Avoid Church Splits and Gossip

Following Jonathan Edwards Resolution # 8 would drastically reduce dissension in the church, broken relationships and perhaps wipe out internet gossip and character assassination.

“Resolved, to act in all respects, both speaking and doing, as if nobody had been so vile as I, and as if I had committed the same sins, or had the same infirmities or failings as others; and that I will let the knowledge of their failings promote nothing but shame in myself and prove only an occasion of my confessing my own sins and misery to God.”

This is what Jesus promoted when he said, “And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye?” (Mark 7:3). It illustrates the heart attitude the apostle Paul demonstrated when he said that he was the “chief” of sinners (1 Timothy 1:15).

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Preaching Christ

Pastor Ron Dorin sent me these quotations, that declare that all adoration and attention toward Christ is the most blessed bent.

Charles Spurgeon “A sermon without Christ as its beginning, middle, and end is a mistake in conception and a crime in execution… When we preach Jesus Christ, then we are not putting out the plates, and the knives, and the forks, for the feast, but we are handing out the bread itself… (Let us) preach Christ to sinners if we cannot preach sinners to Christ… I wish that our ministry – and mine especially – might be tied and tethered to the cross.”

Samuel Rutherford “Next to Christ I have one joy, to preach Christ my Lord”

Richard Baxter “If we can but teach Christ to our people, we teach them all”

William Perkins, “Preach one Christ, by Christ, to the praise of Christ.”

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Family and Government: The Obama Stimulus Package for the Family

87 Billion of the Economic Recovery Package is for “Family Planning”

The Family Research Council posted this astonishing piece, “Stimulus: Promoting Birth Control, Not Self-Control”

“Exactly what kind of stimulus did Speaker Nancy Pelosi have in mind? That’s a question more Americans are asking now that details are trickling in about the controversial $825 billion “economic recovery” package. As it stands, more than 10 percent of the proposal–$87 billion–would allow states to expand their “family planning” services through Medicaid. The country’s recession is crippling families, and the Democrats’ solution is spending billions of dollars on contraception? On yesterday’s “This Week” program on ABC, George Stephanopoulos pressed Speaker Pelosi for an explanation.

STEPHANOPOULOS: Hundreds of millions of dollars to expand family planning services. How is that stimulus?

PELOSI: Well, the family planning services reduce cost… The states are in terrible fiscal budget crises now and part of what we do for children’s health… [is] to help the states meet their financial needs… [O]ne of the initiatives you mentioned, the contraception, will reduce costs to the states and to the federal government.

STEPHANOPOULOS: So no apologies for that?

PELOSI: No apologies. No. We have to deal with the consequences of the downturn in our economy.

In other words, children are a burden to the economy, and Pelosi believes it’s the government’s responsibility to eliminate them…”

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A View of Patriarchy from 1622 – William Gouge on Headship in Marriage

The biblical view of patriarchal leadership in marriage is supremely defined by the heart and behavior of Christ toward His church. William Gouge, the puritan writer says,

“The goodness which Christ doth for his church, He doth because He is the head thereof. O how happy a thing is it for the Church that it hath such a head! An head that doth not tyrannize over it, nor trample it under foot: an head that doth not pole, nor peel the church: but procureth peace and safety to it. When Naomi sought to make a mach betwixt Boaz and Ruth, that he might be her head, what saith she? Shall I not seek rest for thee that it may be well with thee? (Ruth 3:1). It is therefore the office of an head to be a Saviour, to procure rest and prosperity to the body whose head it is.

Happy were it for kingdoms, Commonwealths, cities, Churches, families, wives and all that have heads, if they were such heads: that, because they are heads, they would endeavour to be saviours”

Of Domestical Duties, William Gouge Edited, updated and revised by Greg Fox 2006 Page 23 #18 ..1

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A Picture of Christian Womanhood – Jonathan Edwards Comments on His Daughter Esther

What kind of young women do we pray for in times like these? Certainly not uneducated backward or repressed women, but those who are marked by their happy faithfulness to the biblical vision and characterized by what is best in Christian virtue. Jonathan Edwards saw these things in his daughter Esther and comments on in it,

“she exceeded most of her sex in the beauty of her person, as well in her behaviour and in conversation. She discovered an unaffected, natural freedom towards persons of all ranks with whom she conversed. She had a lively, sprightly imagination, a quick and penetrating discernment, and a good judgment. She possessed an uncommon degree of wit and vivacity, which yet was consistent with pleasantness and good nature ; and she knew how to be face-tious and sportive, without trespassing on the bounds of deco- rum, or of strict, serious religion. In short, she seemed formed to please, and especially to please one of Mr. Burr’s taste and character, in whom he was exceedingly happy. But, what crowned all her excellencies and was her chief glory was religion.”
Closing remarks from the diary of Esther Edwards

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A Father’s Tender Counsel to His Daughter in the Night

Esther Edwards, the daughter of Jonathan Edwards, recorded many tender moments of her family life in her journal. On September 11, 1756, she reflects on the night before and how her father gave her counsel on some spiritual difficulties she was having

‘I opened my difficulties and he as freely advised and directed the conversation as removed some distressing doubts that discouraged me much in my Christian warfare. He gave me some excellent directions to be observed in secret that tend to keep the soul near to God… O what a mercy that I have such a father — such a guide.’

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What about “Home Churching”?

In this podcast, Hope Baptist Church elders, Scott Brown, Steve Breagy, Jason Dohm and Dan Horn, Discuss a popular practice that some call “Home Churching”


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Spurgeon on: The Gospel in Our Homes

Charles Spurgeon identified the power of the gospel in a family, in a sermon on Acts 16:14 which records the conversion of Lydia – the first conversion in Europe. He relates many of the wonderful stories of women in the Bible, and then he reflects upon the power of a godly home in a community,

“If the gospel does not influence our homes, it is little likely to make headway amongst the community. God has made family piety to be, as it were, a sort of trade-mark on religion in Europe; for the very first convert brings with her all her family. Her household believed, and were baptized with her. You shall notice in Europe, though I do not mean to say that it is not the same anywhere else, that true godliness has always flourished in proportion as family religion has been observed. They hang a bell in a steeple, and they tell us that it is our duty to go every morning and every evening into the steeple-house there to join in prayer; but we reply that our own house is better for many reasons; at any rate, it will not engender superstition for us to pray there. Gather your children together, and offer prayer and supplication to God in your own room.

“But there is no priest.” Then there ought to be. Every man should be a priest in his own household; and, in the absence of a godly father, the mother should lead the devotions. Every house should be the house of God, and there should be a church in every house; and when this is the case, it will be the greatest barrier against priestcraft, and the idolatry of holy places. Family prayer and the pulpit are the bulwarks of Protestantism. Depend upon it, when family piety goes down, the life of godliness will become very low. In Europe, at any rate, seeing that the Christian faith began with a converted household, we ought to seek after the conversion of all our families, and to maintain within our houses the good and holy practice of family worship.”

(No. 2222), Intended for Reading on Lord’s-day, September 20th, 1891, Delivered by C. H. SPURGEON, At the Metropolitan Tabernacle, Newington

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Celebrating 27 Years of Marriage Today

Oh Happy Day, 27 years ago, when she said, “I do,” making us “heirs together of the grace of life.” 1 Peter 3:7

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Blogging The NCFIC Confession

ARTICLE I — Scripture is Sufficient

We affirm that our all-wise God has revealed Himself and His will in a completed revelation—the sixty-six books of the Old and New Testaments—which is fully adequate in both content and clarity for “everything pertaining to life (salvation) and godliness (sanctification)” including the ordering of the church and the family (2 Pet. 1:3-4; 2 Tim. 3:16-17).

We deny that God’s people should treat His Word as inadequate for church and family life by supplementing His completed revelation with principles from humanistic psychology, corporate business models, and modern marketing techniques.

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The NCFIC Confession – “A 21st century statement on the necessity of harmony between the separate jurisdictions of the local church and the family”

The NCFIC confession is a working document designed to explain biblical principles regarding family and church life, define the complementary and harmonious roles of church and family as well as identify specific contemporary problems. We call it,

“A 21st century statement on the necessity of harmony between the separate jurisdictions of the local church and the family”

Here is the introduction to the document,


In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, we believe that the church and the family are holy institutions, ordained and established by the Sovereign Triune God Who created the heavens and the earth. God’s infallible revelation, the Bible, reveals that the family is an integral part of the unfolding of His eternal purpose for the redemption of sinners. This great and gracious salvation—purposed by the Father, accomplished by the Son, and applied by the Holy Spirit—is in great measure passed on to succeeding generations as parents faithfully disciple the children God gives them. Therefore, the biblical order and unity of the family are crucial to the stability and health of the Church of Jesus Christ. In light of this, we recognize that the family—and especially fathers—are the focus of a fierce and unrelenting attack by the world, the flesh, and the Devil. This has escalated to the point that Christians must rise up in defense of the church and family in uncompromising biblical defense.

Rather than helping in this battle, church leadership has sometimes unwittingly contributed to the problem. Despite the good intentions of many of these leaders, they bear a level of responsibility for the vulnerability of the family in the face of its enemies. Lack of understanding and even unfaithfulness to God’s Word in our pulpits have contributed to the decline of biblical Christianity and the dissolution of the family in our churches. The minimizing of scriptural authority in the church leads to unbiblical practices. This in turn leads to the perversion of the biblical roles of men and women, the destruction of our children, and the collapse of our society. Traditions, which have originated in the minds of devils and fallen men, are counterfeits to God’s authority. False doctrines derived from Darwinism, Marxism, Feminism, Secular Humanism, Psychology, and countless other unbiblical sources, have emerged from a society that has discarded Divine Revelation and have contaminated or replaced God’s standards in many professing churches of the Lord Jesus Christ. One of the bitter fruits of this is the fragmentation of the family.

We believe that the only resolution to this problem is repentance and reformation. We must confess our failures, reject the traditions of men, and wholeheartedly return to God’s revelation for the establishment and nurture of the family in loving obedience to the Lord Jesus Christ, the Head of the Church. Our fervent prayer is that our God will raise up Spirit-filled, Christ-centered, family-integrated assemblies from the ashes of our man-centered, family fragmenting churches.

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